How to Date and Marry Someone Much Richer than you
by Aaron Tatum
If you have no shame and the idea of blatant “money for relationship” agreements don't bother you (I tend to be of the belief that this sort of thing shouldn't be judged, because it happens in most “normal” relationships anyway to some degree) then various wealthy dating websites and the ever popular Craigslist have many men advertising their money. Never downplay your morals for ephemeral benefits though; if you feel bad about yourself for the way you've acquired your money, then the money itself can't do much to make you happy. On the flip side of that, you don't need to let society or feminist thinking corner you into certain ethical values; these sorts of things are personal decisions. After all, who's to say that some rich guy from Craigslist won't be your soulmate.
If you're a man looking to date a wealthy woman just for the money, then your task may be a little bit tougher On top of the conventional dating rules which dictate that men should always pay for everything, women have a bit of an advantage on men when it comes to basic sexual attraction (studies have shown that men have at least some sexual attraction towards most women, while women tend to be more picky, which stands as an argument for the legitimacy of traditional gender roles), so unless you're an all out Abercrombie model, just tossing yourself into a sea of wealthy women and hoping someone bites may not work too well. Targeting single moms (never sabotage the child's best interests; if you don't like kids then this one may not be for you), women much older than you, or women who are clearly less attractive than you might be more realistic. Again though; mind your morals.
And for those of you who aren't looking for someone with money but still find yourself in a relationship with or attracted to someone who is much richer than you, there a few things that make dating a wealthy individual different than dating someone in your own income range. First off, if you really like someone then you don't want them to feel like you're only out for their wallet. Offer to make dinner or take your date on a scenic hike. Show them that you want to spend time with them in ways that require no money spent by anyone. Maintain a job. If you don't have one, then get one. While your income may not be necessary for the financial stability of a relationship when you're dating someone with a triple figure salary, showing a passion for your own career helps send the right message; that message being that you love the person you're with and not the money they make.
If you're a man dating a much wealthier woman, demand to pay the bill at dinner or movies sometimes. Despite the fact that this may be a harder blow to your own budget than it would have been to hers, she will be naturally flattered and will enjoy the feeling of protection from her partner. There are men out there who don't mind the idea of being a sugar daddy (so long as the woman they are supporting makes them happy in some way) but the list of women who don't mind the idea of being a sugar mama is definitely shorter, so show her your masculine side and let her know that you're there for her in every way, including financially (she may not need you in this way but trust me when I say she still wants you in this way). Also note that rich women enjoy gifts from their man every bit as much as the non-rich variety, so surprise her with something nice from time to time. Spending money on someone with money essentially says “I would treat you the same even if you weren't rich”, which is the understanding that you want to get across.
Everyone loves money, and those who are lucky enough to have lots of it can be quite enticing. Whether you're in a relationship for the money, or just in love with a much richer person, it's important to think of the relationship first, yourself second and the money third. There are things in life more vital to happiness than the almighty dollar, so tread lightly and make well justified decisions. In the end, rich people are just people; so treat them as such.
When it's true love that's at stake, money shouldn't be factor; right? While most of us would like to believe this, it's hard to deny that income brackets always have and always will play at least a small role in relationships. To put it plainly: money should never dictate interpersonal communication, but often times it does. When you find yourself in a situation where you're dating (or would like to date) a much wealthier person there are certainly some things to keep in mind.
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If you're a woman looking to date a wealthy man just for the financial stability (which sounds like an awful goal but it's also pretty easy to understand) then it's all about putting yourself in the right setting. Try going to a high end restaurant alone and having a drink at the bar. Even if you don't meet a guy who strikes your fancy in this way, the networking benefits of making rich friends can lead you into the right circle. Country clubs, golf courses, dog races, art galleries, and expensive department stores are other places you might try paying a visit to. Doing charity work may also be a good way to meet wealthy men (as most charities stay afloat with the help of rich people), and of course this would also be a worthwhile investment of your time in that it helps those in need.
If you have no shame and the idea of blatant “money for relationship” agreements don't bother you (I tend to be of the belief that this sort of thing shouldn't be judged, because it happens in most “normal” relationships anyway to some degree) then various wealthy dating websites and the ever popular Craigslist have many men advertising their money. Never downplay your morals for ephemeral benefits though; if you feel bad about yourself for the way you've acquired your money, then the money itself can't do much to make you happy. On the flip side of that, you don't need to let society or feminist thinking corner you into certain ethical values; these sorts of things are personal decisions. After all, who's to say that some rich guy from Craigslist won't be your soulmate.
If you're a man looking to date a wealthy woman just for the money, then your task may be a little bit tougher On top of the conventional dating rules which dictate that men should always pay for everything, women have a bit of an advantage on men when it comes to basic sexual attraction (studies have shown that men have at least some sexual attraction towards most women, while women tend to be more picky, which stands as an argument for the legitimacy of traditional gender roles), so unless you're an all out Abercrombie model, just tossing yourself into a sea of wealthy women and hoping someone bites may not work too well. Targeting single moms (never sabotage the child's best interests; if you don't like kids then this one may not be for you), women much older than you, or women who are clearly less attractive than you might be more realistic. Again though; mind your morals.
And for those of you who aren't looking for someone with money but still find yourself in a relationship with or attracted to someone who is much richer than you, there a few things that make dating a wealthy individual different than dating someone in your own income range. First off, if you really like someone then you don't want them to feel like you're only out for their wallet. Offer to make dinner or take your date on a scenic hike. Show them that you want to spend time with them in ways that require no money spent by anyone. Maintain a job. If you don't have one, then get one. While your income may not be necessary for the financial stability of a relationship when you're dating someone with a triple figure salary, showing a passion for your own career helps send the right message; that message being that you love the person you're with and not the money they make.
If you're a man dating a much wealthier woman, demand to pay the bill at dinner or movies sometimes. Despite the fact that this may be a harder blow to your own budget than it would have been to hers, she will be naturally flattered and will enjoy the feeling of protection from her partner. There are men out there who don't mind the idea of being a sugar daddy (so long as the woman they are supporting makes them happy in some way) but the list of women who don't mind the idea of being a sugar mama is definitely shorter, so show her your masculine side and let her know that you're there for her in every way, including financially (she may not need you in this way but trust me when I say she still wants you in this way). Also note that rich women enjoy gifts from their man every bit as much as the non-rich variety, so surprise her with something nice from time to time. Spending money on someone with money essentially says “I would treat you the same even if you weren't rich”, which is the understanding that you want to get across.
Everyone loves money, and those who are lucky enough to have lots of it can be quite enticing. Whether you're in a relationship for the money, or just in love with a much richer person, it's important to think of the relationship first, yourself second and the money third. There are things in life more vital to happiness than the almighty dollar, so tread lightly and make well justified decisions. In the end, rich people are just people; so treat them as such.
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