How to Meet Men over 40 Looking for Marriage
by kalyani10
Dating priorities change over time. When you are in your twenties, you simply want to have some fun. But once crossing forty you are probably more interested in someone who could offer a more stable relationship. Here are a few place where you could meet men over forty and looking for marriage.
- Get your priorities straight
Begin by deciding what you are looking for in a man. When you started dating in your late teens, you probably vowed never to marry a guy who lived with his parents or wore purple. In your late twenties and thirties the conditions may have changed to delisting someone who had an ex-wife or earned less than you. Now probably you want to meet men who can make you laugh or with whom you share a few common interests. Once you are clear on what you cannot do without, go ahead and look for guys with those qualities. Just keep in mind that it is unlikely for over forty men who are single and willing to marry, to come without any issues and the choosier you are, the longer you will have to wait.
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- Spread the word
Once you are certain of what you are looking for, start by enlisting help from close friends and family. Tell them that you are eager to rejoin the dating scene and that you are interested in men looking for a committed relationship. Don’t underestimate the power of the informal social network when it comes to match-making. Instead of doing the bar-and-nightclub routine, trust your near and dear ones to come up with better choices for you. The only catch here is that spreading the word around and getting a suitable response takes time. So have patience and in the meantime follow up on other options.
- Join a club
Enroll yourself in a language class or sign up for a hobby club. Single guys who are already settled in their careers are likely to have some time to spare for hobbies and interests. Look for activities which are likely to draw men in this group like a book club, a wine appreciation society or even a dance class – remember Richard Gere taking salsa lesion from a delicious J Lo in the movie Shall We Dance. Only the most adventurous forty-plus guys will be found daring taking up rock-climbing or bungee-jumping as hobbies. And even if you are not lucky enough to immediately discover a co-enthusiast for Thai cookery lessons, think of all the fun you will have simply learning something new and interesting.
- Attend professional seminars, workshops and lectures
These are good place to find successful men over forty since advancement of professional skills figure high in their priorities. However the only catch is that the number of single men here might be limited. For this you have to attend several of these events and mingle with the crowd. And if you are lucky you might just come across a potential date while discussing the finer points of “employee attrition rate in contemporary white collar work force” over a cup of coffee.
- Go clubbing
Single and successful men over forty who have little to do at their homes are more likely to be found in clubs in their spare time – golfing, reading the papers or unwinding in the sauna. See if you can chat up a couple of them while they are having a drink or teeing off on the links. If subscription to these clubs seems too expensive, try to find a friend or co-worker who is already a member and cadge an entry as a guest.
- Doing volunteer work
Doing volunteer work is a great way of meeting new people. Opt for a cause that is close to heart so that you can enjoy helping others. If you are an animal lover, help out at an animal shelter or if you love the musty smell of books, see if you can spare a day at the community library. And if you happen to meet a potential suitor what better bond than a mutual love for philanthropic work?
- Be more social
Nothing short of a miracle will land a single over forty man at your doorstep looking for a wrong address and a wife as well. So go out of your house where people come together. Instead of sitting at home and reading a book, do the same at a bookstore, many of which have comfortable reading areas these days. Or flip through a magazine while you are having a latte at your favorite coffee shop. Browse through the newspaper to see what events are listed in your locality like a poetry-reading session perhaps or even a fireworks display. This gives other people an opportunity to meet and talk to you which is hardly possible if you refuse to leave the indoors.
- Your kid’s school
If you are a single parent, events at your kid’s school could also turn out to be pretty useful occasions to meet eligible men. With one out of every two marriages breaking up, there are bound to be other single-parent families in your kid’s circle. Get to know your kids friends and even if they do not all have single dads, you could network more with their families and share similar joys and challenges.
- Go online
The internet is a great resource for seeking out potential partners. The wonderful thing about online matchmaking websites is that it lets to weed out unsuitable candidates by tools like personality matching and search filters. At the same it allows you to take your time in getting to know a new person instead of being rushed into something hasty. There are several sites which cater solely to the needs of forty plus singles and which have special resources for forty plus members.
There used to be a time when crossing a certain age, especially for women, meant that you had missed the bus. So even though the pool of available men definitely shrinks after forty, it is never too late to find love and life anew.
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